Not a priority right now
|November 11, 2013||Posted by Carrie under bloggers, FitFluential|
I’m trying take the phrase: “I don’t have time for _____” out of my vocabulary.
Because it’s baloney.
After reading this blog post from Carla – MizFitOnline – “Swapping I DON’T HAVE TIME for IT’S NOT A PRIORITY RIGHT NOW“, I was finally able to put words to the way that the phrase drives me crazy.
It’s not that I don’t have time for something. We’re all busy.
We’ve all taken on a lot. As Carla points out – “when did being busy! busy! busy! become an admirable trait?”
Here’s the thing – - we choose where we spend our time.
A few nights ago, I chose to sit on the couch and work on this blog post. I played with my dogs for a bit. I had dinner with my husband. I chose to relax and recharge a bit and ignore the busy! busy! busy! to do list.
There were lots of things that didn’t get done. Busy! busy! busy! stuff. But, things that could wait or things I wasn’t interested in spending time and energy on at that moment.
It wasn’t that I didn’t have time.
It was that I chose to do something else with my time.
There are definitely days where I feel overwhelmed with some of the things that need to get done. But, I try to remind myself that I chose to structure my days with busy activities and that these details needed to be taken care of for those family priorities to happen. It’s not all sunshine and puppy dog tails (is that the phrase?), but if I don’t do a good job prioritizing the day and I wait until the last minute to get a few things done, the other more fun things have to wait.
When someone approaches me with a project and I say no, I try really really hard not to turn it down with the excuse that “I don’t have time.” I say that I have a lot on my plate and just can’t make it a priority right now.
It’s like finding the time to add healthy habits to my day (like getting up early to workout or take the time to pack my lunch). I make the time because those things are a priority to me. To the people who say they don’t have time to exercise, yet they have time to watch tv every day – I say that the exercise just isn’t a priority. There’s time – it just depends on what you want to do. There are some tasks we have to spend time doing (paying bills, fixing household problems) in order for our lives to run smoothly. So, we make time to get them done because there’s a long term benefit. I’m not saying you shouldn’t do the mundane stuff – there are definitely things that *need* to get done so that we can live the way we choose to live. But, again, that means that your lifestyle is a priority (ok, so I made the picture too big, let’s narrow it back down).
I recently shared my love of podcasts with a friend and later when the topic came up again, her reason for not listening was “I haven’t had time”. I know this person’t schedule pretty well – It’s not that she didn’t have time, it’s that other things took priority. I do wish she had just said – you know, I don’t think podcasts will by my thing. Thanks anyway.
I haven’t been able to manage my schedule to get blog posts written lately. It hasn’t been a priority. There are other things that take priority over my blog hobby. But, I make the time when I have thoughts swirling in my head that need to get out or if I have some (in my opinion) interesting news to share. It’s just not an item that gets priority daily.
I’m not sure why the phrase gets under my skin. Maybe it’s because being busy! busy! busy! has become an admirable trait? And that’s become a legitimate excuse? Why can’t we be honest with ourselves and those around us? We can make the time for the people/projects/activities that are a priority in our lives. The rest can wait.
I caught myself saying the dreaded phrase the other day… then I gave it a second thought. There were actually a bunch of other reasons why I hadn’t done what it was I was procrastinating about. It wasn’t at all because I didn’t have time – it was because I had a million other reasons why I didn’t want to do the activity in question. It wasn’t a priority at all. It felt like a big weight lifted off my shoulder when I admitted it to myself. Ahhh.
Next time you find yourself saying that you don’t have time for something. Ask yourself a different question… ask yourself if there are other things that you’d rather spend your time doing… I promise, you’ll think of 5 other things that take priority over that thing that you didn’t think you had time to do.
(I know the picture may seem nonsensical – but it’s my tranquil thought place – helps me prioritize)
What do you think? Is there something you’ve been saying you don’t have time to do, when it’s really just not a priority?