|August 14, 2013||Posted by Carrie under bloggers, inspiration|
A while back I shared a post with 7 rules for life. #4 on that list was Don’t compare yourself to others.
That specific statement made me think about the phenomenon of “Facebook Envy”. Are you familiar with this term? Basically, Facebook Envy is when you are envious of your friends on Facebook for all the fun things they share and when you start to think negatively about your own ‘boring’ life. I’ve been thinking lately about how this applies to bloggers as well. We read about the fun things that people do and we start to think that our lives are boring in comparison. We see people talking about how healthy they eat, how much they workout, how it’s so amazing that their kids eat kale at every meal, etc, etc.
It’s so important to remember, especially for those who read lots of blogs of people you don’t really ‘know’, that we only see a snippet of that person’s life. We only see a little bit of what they share. And we only see what they want us to see.
Most people don’t air their dirty laundry on their blogs or on Facebook. Most people don’t say – “tonight we sat on the couch and all stared at our respective devices for 3 hours” (which happens
a lot around here these days). Or, “my husband/boss/friend is such a jerk and I’m mad about xyz.”
We share the fun stuff, the motivational stuff and the happy times.
Watching fireworks at Disneyland doesn’t happen every day
I write my blog to help myself stay motivated to take care of my body and be healthy. I like to connect with other bloggers who have similar goals and interests. For most bloggers that I read, they have full time jobs and their blogs are their hobbies. Most of the time, I have no idea what they do for their ‘real’ job unless it’s fitness/health related. I’d estimate that most bloggers talk about 5-10% of their days activities on their blogs.
There can be a lot of motivation and inspiration in that 5-10%. Don’t discount that. But, take it all with a grain of salt. The seemingly ‘perfectly inspiring’ life that’s projected by the person on their blog or by your friend on Facebook, may likely not be the case.
My point is – - there’s so much more to a person’s life than the tidbits you see online. People don’t write about the boring stuff. No one wants to read the mundane complaining and the whining. People tend to share two ends of the happiness continuum (is there such a thing?) – they share the really happy stuff and the really bad stuff. The stuff in the middle – the other 80% of life. That’s the stuff that doesn’t get shared online.
But, it’s still hard to not have Facebook Envy.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Do what works for you and what makes you happy.